Tuesday, September 2, 2025

INSTEAD OF TRYING HARDER…

 

…TRY SOFTER

 

I’ve been contemplating this bit of advice, seemingly more a play on an idiom than wise, when out of the cloudy sky it came to me.

 

Trying softer. Yes, that.

 

After a mistake or mishap, maybe instead of doubling down, consider gentleness on the next move. Consider a redo more carefully planned.

 

After getting a NO, consider letting it sink, but slowly, instead of throwing an inner tantrum. Then, proceed with caution and consideration of what just happened.

 

After getting stonewalled, instead of bashing my head against the wall— consider resting next to the wall and catching my breath.

Gentleness with self diffuses into gentleness with others and a wind that transforms into a soft breeze.

 

{A soft hug}

©Art by Maya Golek Apter. Dreaming dog is Brandi Apter


3 comments:

Evelyn said...

Gentleness and softness sound good to me, whether for ourselves or others. Thank you for the reminder.

Vijaya said...

That's such good advice, Mirka. Thank you. I need to practice being gentle with myself.

Mirka Breen said...

Posting from MirkaK (she's not me) who seems periodically to be stonewalled by Blogger: "Good advice, probably for most situations!"
I'm also in MirkaK's debt for offering punctuation advice. She's a good editor, and I need one 💐