Whoever came up with the above relationship advice knew of
what they speak.
On the face of it, it doesn’t sound right. In real life it
is just about spot on.
I noticed long ago that when asking for a favor, something I
never found easy to do, others are full of helpful advice. But few of the
advisers are there to be of practical help. Something about being asked for a
favor causes a defensive/protective wall to be erected in the persons asked.
I had a friend who always asked for advice. Being asked for
advice is flattering. Someone you care about values your thinking. This sets
you into an expansive state. Now you don’t only want to offer your thinking on
their issue, you want to be part of the solution. Being part of the solution on
a practical level becomes your reward.
I was always right there, ready to do and be if that friend took
my advice. I have to be honest and admit that said friend, when they asked for
a favor, didn’t always get the best help from me. This is one of the ways I know
the title of this post holds a truth.
Of course, I’ve been fortunate to have people in my life who
follow their advice with practical help. The years have taught me they are not
the rule but the exception. This makes them stand out as exceptional, and you
know who you are.
©Anastasia Ames
