Tuesday, December 9, 2025

The Faulty Concept of WRITERS’ RETREATS

 

Years ago, I was asked by a good friend (not a writer or artist) if I had a writing retreat I go to in order to, what else, write.

 

I laughed because this was not in the budget and in no way part of my lifestyle. I was a mother of young children who were never in daycare or even had a babysitter. There was no place for sequestering on a retreat, period.

 

There still isn’t. I write where I live. I write from my real life. My creative life is part of my daily life. The very notion of retreats is to separate from one’s life/work/dear ones, and to dis-connect. Un-connect. It’s about disrupting connectivity.

 

I don’t get it, and likely never will.

 

I chuck it to romantic notions emanating from another age. Today, these so-called retreats are commercial enterprises and, frankly, an abuse of true creative reality. There’s a whole industry of these retreats and it’s booming.

 

If you want to take a break from the hustle-bustle, by all means do. Call it a vacation. Call it a break. Let’s not wrap breaking from real life a “creative retreat.”

 

I’d love a nice vacation. If I go, I will not be writing but reclining and sipping a delicious beverage with my feet up.

 

Writing is real work.


6 comments:

Karen Jones Gowen said...

When I need to buckle down and finish a book, I go to Mexico for a lengthy stay. In January, I go for 9 months and among other things, I plan to finish the next book in my travel series. But as for an official, paid for retreat with other writers, never done that.

Evelyn said...

I've not been on a writing retreat. I did go to a half day writing workshop one time. The person in charge had us do a writing assignment for 10 or 15 minutes. What I wrote caused me to start crying, and I ended up leaving the room and going to the restroom to clean up my tears. I decided from that experience that writing around other people really wasn't "my thing."

MirkaK said...

I've gone on many long silent meditation retreats. It's a boon to creativity for some of us, though it's not been my intention for attending. Because of the stillness and lack of home/work responsibilities during the time on retreat, ideas (titles, paragraphs) arise unbidden and I welcome them. I jot things down when I go back to my room. I had such an experience recently and was gratified by all I experienced while sitting and walking quietly. I have never attended a writer's retreat, per se, but I used to go to places where I could write with ease while away from the distractions at home. I highly recommend taking the time to disconnect from daily life and going off in seclusion or semi-seclusion. I've reaped countless benefits from doing so.

Barbara Etlin said...

I've never gone to a writers' retreat, but I understand the appeal to writers (overwhelmingly women) who want some time away from family responsibilities to write. They could be sole caregivers or mothers of young children.
When I could travel, I found that a change of scenery was inspiring and I did a lot of writing then.

Mirka Breen said...

Barbara Etlin: I, too, found that travel and vacation EXPERIENCES brings new inspiration for later work, but the writing itself is for after, when I digest. I don't travel or sequester to do the writing itself.

MirkaK: I appreciate your experience and take. I never had the means to pay for these getaways, often many hundreds of $$, and have always found the greatest inner calm to sit down and *do the work* to be at my trusted desk in the corner of my personally designed-for-it room, which has given me the right ambience for working. Touch wood, may it continue. Because these for-profit sojourns to writerly retreats are not in the economic cards in the foreseeable horizon. The idea of writing in the presence of others also doesn't appeal in the least.
I actually consider myself lucky in this regard. 😉

Vijaya said...

Mirka, I hear you. Writing is part of my life but what a gift it is when I've been able to retreat from the hurly-burly of life and focus on just one thing. For instance, Michael and I make an annual spiritual retreat for a weekend even though we lead a liturgical life. Even with my barbershop chorus, we'll spend a weekend with a coach, working really hard on our unit sound. It's the same with writing. I've appreciated the scholarships I won for writing retreats, especially when the kids were little. Now that they are grown and on their own, I've not felt the need, though sometimes I think it'd be a good idea. So grateful for a creative life at home.