Tuesday, October 17, 2017

This Life is NOW

A few months ago someone I had some virtual contact with, mostly in years back, let her Facebook friends know she had just suffered a calamitous loss. On what should have been a joyous father-son bonding trip, half her family was wiped out. Her husband and older son died while hiking, likely from heatstroke.


In one cruel swoop she was a widow, and the mother of one surviving son.


This horrific event was on the news, local and national. I read the reports over and over, as if re-reading would tell a different story, maybe with a happier ending. I woke up the next day with that feeling most would recognize. It’s that did this really happen thought, and a feeling of reality descending but not quite hitting the ground.


This did not happen to me. I could go on with my day and the days to come with my routine intact. But it did shake me up. The opening words of Joan Didion’s Year of magical Thinking kept echoing

Life changes in an instant.

It’s still a wake-up call for me. I tell my kitties I’m so happy they’re here. I look at people and places with gratitude. Nothing is permanent and most things are not for later, they are now.
Hugs, everyone.

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  1. A tragic event that can change one's life in an instant, so sad and sobering. It can happen to anyone any time. A reminder to hold those we love close to us, not to waste precious time on negativity & selfishness.

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  2. Hugs to you also. Life surely can change in an instant. This last January I went to my usual yoga class. Had a cup of tea afterwards. Felt all lithe and alive. Two hours later I was admitted to the ER and had to be cardioverted. 'Out of the blue' scary. I'm okay now thanks to an ablation procedure, but I do not take anything for granted. The face you see today may not be there tomorrow. Give kisses and hugs when you can. Yes.

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    1. Oh, Helen.
      And that tea... I'm guessing it had little to do with what followed.

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    2. Naah, wasn't the tea. I had a birth defect in my heart wiring which I was unaware of. Sneaky thing.

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  3. Carpe diem, my friend.

    You only need one of those wake-up calls to make you appreciate each day. Mine occurred when my father died suddenly and much too young.

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    1. One instant^ you wish you could rewind. Alas. {{{}}}

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  4. That's so sad. Life is filled with moments that change us completely.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Cherish the moment may be a cliche, but it's repeated for a reason. We need reminding.

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  5. I know Mirka. It was indeed a call to love, to never defer love, and to repent.

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    1. Another linguistic cliche comes to mind, "a wake up call."

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  6. Hugs, Mirka! Tragedies like that remind us to hold our loved ones near while we have them.

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    1. Yes, Katie. And I know you have had such a loss, so you know.

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  7. I can imagine loss, I was a hospice nurse for decades, but I cannot imagine losing two in my family, a husband and a son, at the same time. When my three sons come to visit this Sunday as they do every Sunday I will be sure to tell them again "I love you!"

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    1. How precious it is that all your sons come every Sunday. <3

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  8. This is heartbreaking. It does sober you to the fact that anything can happen in an instant. I lost a friend recently, and it was so sudden that it shook me up. We never know what's going to happen on any given day, so we can't take anything for granted.

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  9. What can I add to such smart words?... Only... "Do it! Do it now!! Do it again and again!!! Love and hugs - Esther

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    1. Coming from one of the wisest people I've ever known, I will take this as a commandment, Esther.

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  10. 'Love' and 'later' should never go hand in hand.

    I love you, Mirka.

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  11. A sobering reminder that life is precious and short. Sending out hugs aplenty.

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