Years ago I gave my mother a
hand-painted mug that said NO KVETCHING.
My mother is no longer with us, but
the mug is on our kitchen counter.
No
Kvetching. What was I thinking?!?
At a recent writerly event, a marketing-type
admonished the audience not to be negative in public. Chin up, life is
wonderful and I’m doing wonderfully wonderful. This is what you’re to put out.
Save the complaining for private conversations not taped by the FBI, and the
angst, for your dark fiction. If you don’t write dark fiction, put it in your
diary. But make sure the diary is one of those with a lock on it.
And here I was, with my kvetchy and
angsty BLOG. Really.
What agent will want to work with that girl? Which crazy editor will ever
take on a back ‘n forth with this complaining camper? And where are the readers
who will invest twelve minutes or twelve dollars on a negative nagging ninny?
Confession: at the end of the day,
in the deep recesses of my soul, I am a “G-d’s in his heaven, all’s right with
the world” person. But that’s at the end
of the day, and at the end of my stories. During the day is kvetching-time.
My ancestors were not of the "if you can't say something nice, say nothing at all" school. Rather, my grandma told me that if someone only ever says nice things, their credibility should be suspect. With this legacy, you can understand the tradition of Kvetch.
If I can’t offer authenticity in my
blog, I really don’t know why anyone would read it. Wait, is anyone out there?
Go ahead, kvetch to me, honey. You’ll
feel better, I will feel better, and in the end it’ll work out just as it
should.