tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post3187755491134652602..comments2024-03-26T12:40:12.966-07:00Comments on Mirka Muse: AM I GOOD AT THIS?Mirka Breenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00653086859905415156noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-76797088370717907672014-06-08T19:34:41.345-07:002014-06-08T19:34:41.345-07:00It's true. We get more self conscious and less...It's true. We get more self conscious and less self confidence as we grow. Congratulations to your daughter on that amazing accomplishment!Yanting Guehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04788603550626277974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-68484731645369746782014-06-06T08:16:54.181-07:002014-06-06T08:16:54.181-07:00A good boost. Thanks.A good boost. Thanks.Johnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08042379175433349768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-16528683890477299522014-06-05T14:53:47.021-07:002014-06-05T14:53:47.021-07:00Wow...the kindergarten analogy is so true. You hav...Wow...the kindergarten analogy is so true. You have so much confidence in painting as a child and over time, that confidence goes away. With writing, it's scary when you're young because English teachers are judging you. As you get older, you either get scared off altogether or are drawn to it. Outside validation is very important, but if we can somehow find that validation internally, we can survive so much of that rejection.Stephanie Farishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10461865229341760836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-77791194144859574702014-06-05T12:39:45.773-07:002014-06-05T12:39:45.773-07:00Wow, congratulations to your daughter! BTW, I'...Wow, congratulations to your daughter! BTW, I've noticed among students that often the most confident are neither as talented nor as skilled as they think. The real writers have doubts and expect and want constructive criticism. And yes, outside validation has got to come at some point for us to keep going. You can validate yourself all you like, and that's needed, but at some point it's got to have value for somebody else who does not have to love it. If it doesn't, it has no value beyond what it means to you. And at that point even the value you see in it will probably diminish, because you were never able to communicate by it.Marciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10006966091789130047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-15678945429408106262014-06-04T11:06:24.723-07:002014-06-04T11:06:24.723-07:00It's interesting that you got the personal and...It's interesting that you got the personal and then the forms. That was my experience too. I remember reading a piece in SCBWI Bulliten about a writer who gave up writing after she got a personal rejection from a major publisher--not knowing at the time that that was very encouraging. I've tried to keep that in mind for myself as well.<br />I still remember the moment when there was no longer a huge gap between what I wanted my writing to be and what it was. <br />Although I still have a lot to learn, that was a turning point for me.Jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13139361928785566916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-68467520692806836512014-06-04T06:29:14.143-07:002014-06-04T06:29:14.143-07:00I think validation helps but it isn't everythi...I think validation helps but it isn't everything. I think every writer goes in cycles where they think their stuff is terrible and as they edit and polish they start to fall in love with what they have even if it's only for a brief time before someone else pokes holes in it. But i think it's in the moments when you are learning and seeing your writing transform that you can know you really are good enough. Jamie Krakoverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16808802721340647047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-80763802807812157962014-06-03T16:50:24.022-07:002014-06-03T16:50:24.022-07:00Absolutely, Kelly. Remind me to remind you to pat ...Absolutely, Kelly. Remind me to remind you to pat yourself on the back!Mirka Breenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00653086859905415156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-82809892308465739112014-06-03T16:31:00.533-07:002014-06-03T16:31:00.533-07:00Getting validation is a great thing but it should ...Getting validation is a great thing but it should help us feel like validating ourselves too. It's hard for others to validate you if you can't validate yourself.Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7570512522741409033.post-69738167081834033192014-06-03T07:36:10.524-07:002014-06-03T07:36:10.524-07:00Mirka, congratulations to your daughter!!! You mus...Mirka, congratulations to your daughter!!! You must be so proud. And I agree about needing a little bit of the outside validation -- it really ties into the positive feedback loop. I too am thankful for those rejection slips with encouraging notes scribbled on them. And how sweet is that first acceptance!Vijayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07876606729146077830noreply@blogger.com